3 Simple Ways to Ignite Passion in Your Relationship and Make Sex More Fun

Welcome back to another exciting episode of the Great Sex Podcast! Today, we're breaking down the barriers to enjoyable sex and exploring three simple ways to infuse more fun into your intimate moments. So, let's dive in and discover the secrets to a more vibrant and fulfilling sex life.

Sex Should Be Enjoyable

Let's face it, friends—we all have our fair share of less-than-thrilling responsibilities, from changing dirty diapers to tackling that ever-dreaded pile of laundry. However, there's one thing that absolutely should not be on the list of mundane tasks: sex. In this section, we'll explore why sex should be a source of enjoyment and anticipation, setting the stage for the transformative tips to come.

I've worked with many people that really don't enjoy sex. And for the most part, they tend to be women. And the reason they don't enjoy sex is typically because it's just not a lot of fun. It's not something they look forward to and if you're not excited to do something and you don't look forward to it, well then, you're probably not going to have a lot of desire to do it.

When people tell me that they're not interested in sex, the first question I always ask them is, well, what kind of sex are you having?

And when they talk about it, then I realize they're not having sex worth wanting. That's why today I want to share three ways that you can make your sex more fun.

ease and Flirt Your Way to Fun Sex

Remember when you used to flirt with your partner long ago and how much fun that was? Well be flirty. Make your partner want you. Make them want to just grab you and have sex right then. But don't let them because you're teasing them.

You can do this in so many ways. You can tease your partner by parading around naked in front of them. You can wear sexy clothing and flaunt it in front of them. You can send them fun little text messages or leave them little sexy notes. You can touch them in a certain way. You can just give them that kind of flirty little look. You can even send them a picture if that's something that you feel comfortable doing. There's so many great ways you can tease your partner. Try just one of them and see what happens. You might actually enjoy the teasing part.

Embracing Playful Texts and Notes

Texting goes beyond coordinating mundane tasks; it's a powerful tool for igniting desire. Experiment with flirty texts and surprise notes in unexpected places. Whether a suggestive midday message or a cheeky note in a lunchbox, these small gestures build anticipation, keeping the excitement alive.

Sensual Wardrobe Choices: A Gateway to Desire

Clothing isn't merely a fashion statement; it's a potential game-changer in the bedroom. Surprise your partner with a carefully chosen, sexy ensemble that sparks desire. Whether lacy lingerie or a tailored suit, the visual appeal becomes an integral part of foreplay. Explore how your wardrobe can elevate your intimate connection.

Mysterious Touches: The Art of Seductive Contact

In intimacy, touch is a language of its own. Discover the power of mysterious touches on non-erogenous zones, conveying desire through subtle caresses. These lingering touches create heightened anticipation, paving the way for more intense moments later on. Learn to use touch as a tool for building connection and excitement.

Flirtatious Gestures: The Eyes Have It

Sometimes, words are unnecessary. Explore the potency of non-verbal communication with flirtatious gestures. A lingering look across the room, a suggestive glance, or a playful wink—these silent expressions speak volumes. Harness the language of the eyes to deepen your connection and add a layer of excitement to your relationship.

By delving into the intricacies of being a tease, you not only reignite the spark of flirtation but also foster a deeper emotional connection, laying the foundation for a more enjoyable sex life.

Embrace Novelty with Something New

Another way to make sex more fun is to try something new. Anything we do the same again and again and again gets boring. Sex should not be boring. Sex should be so much fun. When we do the same thing all the time it becomes very vanilla. Imagine if you ate the same food every day. You would get so sick of that food. So people that have the same kind of sex all the time they kind of get sick of sex. So shake it up. Spice it up and do something new.

There are so many things in this category that you can do. You can have sex in a different room. You can have sex on a piece of furniture. You can have sex in the car. You can have sex in the backyard. You can have sex in the park. You can have sex in the shower. You can try a different position. You can try different types of sex. You can try different types of foreplay. You can role play. You can dress up. You can go out on a date and pretend that you're strangers meeting each other for the first time.

Change of Scenery: Transforming Spaces, Transforming Pleasure

Breaking away from the routine of the bedroom can be a game-changer. Explore different locations for your intimate moments. Whether a spontaneous encounter in the living room, a weekend getaway, or a romantic night under the stars, changing the scenery adds an element of surprise and novelty to your sexual routine.

Exploring Different Positions: Beyond the Basics

Consider experimenting with different positions can breathe new life into your sex life. From adventurous to intimate, the possibilities are vast. The key is open communication with your partner, discussing fantasies, and discovering new ways to connect physically.

Role Play and Dress-Up: Unleashing Fantasy

Imagination is a powerful tool in the bedroom. Explore the world of role-playing scenarios and dress-up. Assume different personas, dress up in costumes, or play with fabrics—these playful activities add a layer of sensuality to your encounters. Consider stepping outside your comfort zone and explore new facets of intimacy through creative role play.

Themed Date Nights: Elevating Ordinary to Extraordinary

Infuse your date nights with a touch of creativity. Try themed date nights that add a layer of excitement. Whether a nostalgic '80s night or a sophisticated masquerade, the element of surprise keeps things interesting and creates lasting memories. Discover how themed date nights can contribute to a more exciting and connected relationship.

As you explore these new avenues of novelty, you'll find that breaking away from the mundane not only adds spice to your sex life but also deepens your emotional connection.

The Toy Revolution

What about introducing sex toys into your love life or expanding your collection from the one or two you use all of the time. A great way to make sex more fun is to try a sex toy. They're called toys for a reason because they should be fun. And oh my goodness, there are a gazillion sex toys out there for both individual use and partner use. They're fabulous. If you haven't tried out a good sex toy lately, you are missing out, because there is a huge market out there.

There are some really creative people thinking of sex toys and I'd really love to know how they do the market research. If you buy a new sex toy, I always recommend that you try it out first by yourself. That way you can get comfortable with it and you won't feel as awkward when you pull it out to try it with a partner. And I also recommend you never pull out a sex toy for the first time with your partner and expect them to use it with you or on them. And the reason is they have to have consent to use a sex toy. And sometimes in the heat of the moment, that can be really upsetting to people if they're expected to use this new sex toy, and it kind of wigs them out.

There are so many fabulous sex toys on the market. There are dildos, there are clitoral stimulators, there are vibrators, there are anal toys, there are great couples toys, there's kinky toys that you can use. The sky is the limit when it comes to sex toys. The thing is, just try one.

And if you are really nervous to go shop for a sex toy, you don't have to go in person to a store. There are a whole bunch of online sites and you can just buy something and it will show up at your doorstep in really discreet packaging. It's not like the box shouts, sex toy inside. It will more than likely come in a plain box. So your kids are never going to know that you ordered a sex toy. Unless of course, you share an Amazon account with your family and your kids get in there and they see your ordering history or they see what's in your cart.

What's great about sex toys is they change things up, they make sex so much more pleasurable, and they make it a lot more fun to have sex with your partner. For female bodies, sex toys are awesome because they really help you to have an orgasm.

Understanding Your Preferences: A Personal Exploration

Before delving into the world of sex toys, it’s important to understand your personal preferences. Are you seeking clitoral stimulation, internal pleasure, or something that both partners can enjoy? Taking the time to know your desires will help in making informed choices when it comes to selecting the right toy.

Choosing the Right Toy: Navigating the Options

The market is flooded with a myriad of options. Guide yourself through the process of choosing the right toy. Consider your comfort level, preferences, and open communication with your partner when making a selection. Whether a discreet vibrator or an adventurous couples' toy, understanding your needs is the key to introducing the right toy into your intimate moments.

Solo Exploration and Partner Integration: The Journey Together

Embarking on the journey of incorporating sex toys into your relationship begins with solo exploration. Try out a new toy by yourself first, allowing you to become comfortable with it. When you're ready to introduce it to your partner, communication is crucial. Ensure both parties are on board, and consent is established for a seamless integration of the toy into your shared pleasure.

Enhancing Pleasure and Connection: More Than Physical

Sex toys aren't just about physical pleasure; they can enhance emotional connection. Explore how the introduction of sex toys can be a shared experience that deepens the bond between partners. By sharing desires and fantasies, couples can explore new avenues of pleasure and elevate their intimate moments to new heights.

As you demystify the world of sex toys, you'll discover that these tools not only bring added pleasure but also create opportunities for increased connection and intimacy.

Communicating Desires

Effective communication is the cornerstone of any thriving relationship, especially when it comes to matters of intimacy. In this section, we delve into the significance of open and honest communication between partners, emphasizing the need to express desires, preferences, and boundaries.

Cultivating a Safe Space

Creating an environment where both partners feel safe to share their intimate desires is paramount. Encourage open conversations, free from judgment or criticism. By fostering a safe space, couples can build trust and deepen their understanding of each other's needs.

Verbalizing Desires and Fantasies

Unveil the power of verbalizing your desires and fantasies. Whether through candid conversations or playful discussions, expressing what ignites passion can lead to a more fulfilling and satisfying sex life. Learn how sharing your innermost desires can strengthen the emotional connection between you and your partner.

Active Listening

Communication is a two-way street, and active listening is the key. Explore the art of truly hearing and understanding your partner's desires. By listening attentively, couples can forge a deeper connection and demonstrate a genuine interest in each other's needs.

Resources for Continued Exploration

If you want more resources to delve deeper into enhancing your sexual intimacy, I created a fantastic and helpful course about the world of sex toys called Toy Talk.  Additionally, you can download my free resource titled "69 Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life."