Hi, I'm Dr. Heather England

Founder of Love Filled Life

This is my story ...

I didn’t plan to be a sex therapist when I grew up. In fact, my family didn’t talk about sex.

Like many people, I grew up sexually inhibited with shame-based messages about what good girls do and don’t do.

I graduated from the United States Military Academy at West Point in the 5^th class that included women, served as an Army officer, and then went to work in the corporate world where I became a senior manager at Hallmark Cards.

I was an overachiever junkie, busy trying to please everyone and be perfect, but that’s a recipe for disaster.

I always wanted to be in a helping profession and felt a tug to go back to school to become a therapist.

As I worked with more and more clients, I realized two important things:  first, some people weren’t doing a great job building healthy relationships, and second, many needed help with their sexual intimacy.

But here’s the thing, I didn’t think I was doing a good job at either of those things in my own life. So how could I help others?

I did some soul searching about what was important to me.  I became intentional about nurturing all the important relationships in my life.

I worked really hard as a therapist helping couples strengthen their relationships. I got a Ph.D. in Clinical Sexology, and I became a certified sex therapist. 

As my spouse and I aged, our bodies changed and we had to reinvent how we had sex.  No longer was sex something we did, but it was a place we went to – a special pleasure we experienced together where we could try new things and embrace our sexual expression.

We grew even closer because of our new approach to sex and our freedom.

I realized how privileged I was because my training helped me to navigate mid-life and its assorted problems in a way that strengthened my relationship and made me feel more sexually confident.  

I wanted others to have this type of love and great sex.